Breathing Techniques for Better Lovemaking – Part 2
January 26, 2012 by CarlaTara · 1 Comment
In my last post, I started a discussion about using breathing techniques during lovemaking. This is unusual for many people, and they may be afraid to try something that seems so different. I encourage you to give these techniques a try – they are incredibly effective a t increasing pleasure for both men and women, and creating true deep connection in the lovemaking act.
Today let’s move to the second stage of the Tantric breath. Follow for more . . . » »
Breathing Techniques for Better Lovemaking – Part 1
January 18, 2012 by CarlaTara · 1 Comment
There are 3 stages of lovemaking, each requiring a different breath. In this post I’m going to talk about the first and most important stage of lovemaking, which requires the Ocean Breath™.
The first stage of breath is the incredibly important and often underestimated Ocean Breath™. The Ocean Breath™ empowers the heart to open, the body to relax and connect with the sensations and feelings that flow within your body and the body of your lover.
If the feelings are not stuck and seem impossible to express, this gently flowing breath melts the blocks that keep the energy from flowing. Good lovemaking can not happen unless the heart center opens up, and the Ocean Breath™ is the fasted way to open this marvelous portal of love.
You allow the breath to come into your slightly opened mouth and let it float down into the lower part of the lungs. The diaphragm respond to this with moving down to make room for the lungs to elongate. This creates a gentle, empowering massage of the sex center.
Any touch, but especially the water touch –this relaxing, nurturing touch– when synchronized with the Ocean Breath™ can take the touch deeper into the body of your lover, touching the very core.
The Ocean Breath™ opens you up for communication on a deep level. Breathing this way helps you become aware of all that needs to be expressed to be fully present to love. What emerges with the Ocean Breath™ could be anything such as desires, needs that have been suppressed, expression of gratefulness, a strong longing to connect. It is the best preparation for the so called ‘foreplay’. I call it the ‘pre-foreplay’.
The Ocean Breath™ opens up energies stored in the sex and power center and get them moving throughout the whole body, a great preparation for multiple orgasms.
The second stage – the nose breath with a longer exhalation through your mouth is best used during the second part of the foreplay and the beginning of intercourse, and the more advanced third stage breath is the controlled breath.
Important note: you can always revert back to the Ocean Breath™ when find yourself disconnected from your partner, or thinking you should do something different than what is happening and/or forcing to reach a goal. The Ocean Breath™ will take you back to the present moment.
Another note: A woman does not have to learn the stage three breath because she does not need to control the energy unless she wants to.
Love, Carla
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Giving In The Spirit of Tantra
December 23, 2011 by CarlaTara · Leave a Comment
The hustle and bustle of many of us who have bought into the commercialization of the Holidays are can be greatly scaled down if you spend a few minutes to check in with yourself – how well are you receiving the presents that life offers you every single day?
When you have a real smile on your face, because you are thinking how lucky you are to have health, the sunshine, the rain, the abundance of fruits that nature gives us, the ability to reach out to thousands of people and contribute to their lives, a call from a friend who is thinking of you…then you are enjoying the true gifts of life.
I believe that when you are good at receiving with gratefulness in your heart, you are also good at giving of yourself – remember that for the people in your life, the best present of all is your full presence. Even a hug given with full presence is a great gift. Yes, you truly can give a lot when you look into another’s eyes and are touched by the love you feel for this person.
If giving more material presents makes you happy and does not unduly stress your finances, go ahead and be generous in that way, too. Just take the time, and make sure you connect while you are giving your present. Then it will have double value!
Love,
Carla
Carla Tara
The Intimacy Expert
11-11-11
November 11, 2011 by CarlaTara · Leave a Comment
11-11-11 – all these 1s make up a single 1 –
1 to the power of 1 is still one
Today it’s a celebration of coming home to who we are, a facet of an enormous diamond. It is time to accept and celebrate our oneness with each other, the earth and all that is.
Our history shows that war has not brought peace When we think of ourselves as separate it is easy to make another the enemy When we think and feel we are one then there is peace.
Yet knowing this on an intellectual level does not help much. It is almost impossible to feel One when you are divided inside, split between thinking and feeling, between left and right brain. Today is the beginning of integrating all of who we are.
Acceptance precedes integration. you need to accept your shadow side instead of fighting it
Accept that it is there and reflect on the consequences that it creates if acted out
When our shadow side is left undetected
you can not choose to transform it into love, our only hope for integrating all of who we are and feel the pleasure of Union.
The Revolution to the old ways of thinking is exciting. Revolution without the R = evolution.
How willing are we to actually evolve? Today is the perfect day to reflect on it. I would love to hear your thoughts too.
Breaking Habits That Destroy Love
October 11, 2011 by CarlaTara · Leave a Comment
As you probably know, much of our difficulty in keeping a relationship fresh comes from the fact that the left side of our brains, the part that is concerned with our survival, loves to create habits. This part of the brain is responsible for doing things for you that produce efficiency and comfort. Obviously it is not efficient to have to figure out over and over again which muscles to use, and in what sequence, to do simple things like walking, opening a door, making sounds, and even more complicated actions like flying a plane.
By creating habits, the left side of our brain lets us make a little ‘program’ that takes us through the most efficient set of actions without wasting time thinking through each one. We are really grateful for this ability, which ultimately makes our lives easier.
However, the problem is that this same part of our brain wants to take over and make the decisions about what’s best for you all the time, without consulting with the heart. The left side simply takes over the job of the right side of our brain without being in touch with the wisdom that is available to the right brain, and without considering factors like love, joy, and excitement.
If we don’t pay attention, the habit-creating actions of the left side, which can be so useful to us, can start to strangle us with efficiency and routine in the most important parts of our lives where we DON’T want to be on autopilot. Follow for more . . . » »
