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I received a phone call from a dear friend, Marylyn, wishing me a great Valentine’s day and telling me she did not have a lover bringing her chocolate and flowers, but she had a great time. Her voice was consistent with the news. She sounded turned on and happy. “She definitely enjoys being by herself”, I thought.

As though she had heard my thought, she said, “I do enjoy spending time with myself; I usually read a book, dance by myself, or play my guitar. But today I’ve decided to do something to have others feel enjoyment about being alive.”  (more…)

Last night I had the most amazing dream that took me back to my teenage years. I re-experienced my first kiss – it was mind-blowing. The first kiss that gave me the sense of such deep connection with my boyfriend that I did not know where my body ended and his began. We were in a car on a moonlit night, listening to a most romantic song sung by an Italian singer with a voice so deep and sensual that it felt as if it was coming from her sex center. The song, “Avvinta Come L’Edera,,” was describing the winding together of two bodies like ivy clings to a tree trunk. (more…)

A follow up to last week’s post on the anti-aging potential of Tantra. An interview I originally gave in 2008 – it’s still relevant and timely today.  Enjoy! (more…)

The difference between regular sex and Tantra is awareness. One of the fundamental parts of the ecstasy you feel during sacred sex comes from the spiritual connection between you and your love partner. It is difficult to stay aware of your spiritual connection when your sex center gets very turned on unless you have trained how to do so.

Staying aware when you are very turned on physically is challenging, but incredibly rewarding. When you learn to stay aware of all that you are during the moments of highest excitement , you are in a Tantic state, a state of union between the male and female energy, between the body, the mind and the spirit, and the emotions flow freely and unencumbered like a river between the different levels.

It is a state of pleasure and deep enjoyment, a celebration of being fully alive in the NOW. When you are in this state, time stays still, and your experience of bliss is stretched and intense. The now is eternal. That is why the experience that Tantric love brings is always fresh and new.

Some people have approached me lately asking if Tantra encourages orgies.

They see great sculptures on Tantric temples depicting several people making love to each other, which I admit looks like an orgy.  However it’s far from being an orgy, and is really a higher level of expression of sexual/spiritual love. I want to shed light on the issue to encourage people  who might avoid Tantra, thinking that it is about orgies, to actually take a closer look at Tantra. (more…)