Father’s Day – Celebration For Some And Sadness For Others!
by CarlaTara · Leave a Comment
Fatherhood brings a lot of responsibility and also great joy to the man who is committed to being a loving father who honestly cares for the welfare of his children.
A good father bonds with his children and helps them along the path of finding out who they are, their talents, and to becoming the best they can be.
We know no one is perfect. However, there is a lot of satisfaction in being a ‘good enough’ father.
A ‘good enough’ father finds time to spend with his children and nurtures his connection with his wife. Tantra recommends building a strong love bond between parents because the stronger the love connection of the parents, the more children will grow up having a model of a marriage that works. A strong connection and good communication with his mate makes him a better lover and a better father.
Men who come to me for relationship counseling and Tantra get to understand on a deep level that trust in life comes from good mothering, and self-esteem comes from good fathering. When you tell your child that it’s OK to make mistakes and kindly but strongly invite them to look at the consequences of their actions to learn from their mistakes, you have helped your child with his or her self-esteem.
When you go to see your kids’ games, you have helped them feel important enough for you to take that time for them.
Father’s Day is your special day to celebrate all that and more.
However, I am thinking also of those fathers who made their woman pregnant by mistake and were not able or willing to commit to fatherhood. I can only imagine how painful a day like Father’s Day can be to these biological “fathers” who might have succumbed to a moment of passion and caused a birth of a human being that would grow up without them. I’m imagining that on a certain level both the child and the father are longing for each other.
Tantric wisdom extends an invitation to those “fathers” to celebrate Father’s Day as well, by forgiving themselves for their ignorance, lack of consideration of the consequences of their action, or lack of courage to take responsibility for it.
By doing this, they start to father their own inner kid that I’m guessing might not have had great self-esteem when that happened.
Forgiveness builds self-esteem and transforms guilt into love.
I also feel for those fathers who had the misfortune to lose their children in war or through some accident or sickness.
Holidays like this serve to help them mourn for the loss and get deeper into self-love.
My love goes out to all of you, fathers!
Happy Father’s Day!
I originally published this in 2008, and have had many comments, so I decided to release it again.
Mother’s Day for the Divine Mother in All of Us
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Today we celebrate Mother’s Day, and nature is opening up her astounding beauty fully. Our first physical mother is the earth, which provides the ground for us to walk on and build houses on. She gifts us generously with fruits and vegetables of all colors and varied awesome tastes.
Earth celebrates her Divine motherhood after the long sleep of winter by bringing to life all the trees and flowers that bring much happiness to our hearts. The birds and other animals are celebrating her, too, by being more vocal and expressing their sexuality more strongly. Follow for more . . . » »
The Golden Dakini
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The Tibetan Buddhist tradition includes a pantheon of buddhas and dakinis who embody all the different personalities or essences. Each ‘character’ in the pantheon has their own poem or song of meditation.
One of the most beautiful is the song of the Golden Dakini. It is a beautiful praise to the divine feminine essence as healer, caretaker, mother and spiritual guide. It inspires me as a coach, and I hope it inspires you as well:
Intuition or Ego? How To Tell The Difference
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Higher intuition is derived from the practice of Tantra: the Ocean Breath, the connection, the meditation on sensations and feelings. Intuition gets you in touch with your inner knowing, with the part of you that is connected to All that Is. Following our intuition can bring your relationships to more fulfilling levels. It always is there to help you and to guide you to your highest good, whether it is health or happiness.
It takes intention, and consistent practice to learn to distinguish between intuition or inspiration from the voice of the ego reminding you to do what’s next on the list.
A woman asked me this question: How can I distinguish between intuition and other thoughts?” Follow for more . . . » »
Fun & Facts on Orgasms
I had to share this video with you – it’s got some surprising new facts about orgasm I bet you have never heard before. Mary Roach is the author of Bonk, a wander through comtemporary sex research, full of fascinating tidbits & anecdotes about human sexuality. Here is an engaging, funny talk she gave at TED about what she found out about orgasms while researching the book.
So what did you think? What was the most surprising thing you learned about orgasms in the video? I’d LOVE to hear what you think – so leave a comment!
Ciao,
Carla
