Breathing Techniques for Better Lovemaking – Part 2
In my last post, I started a discussion about using breathing techniques during lovemaking. This is unusual for many people, and they may be afraid to try something that seems so different. I encourage you to give these techniques a try – they are incredibly effective a t increasing pleasure for both men and women, and creating true deep connection in the lovemaking act.
Today let’s move to the second stage of the Tantric breath. Read more
Breathing Techniques for Better Lovemaking – Part 1
There are 3 stages of lovemaking, each requiring a different breath. In this post I’m going to talk about the first and most important stage of lovemaking, which requires the Ocean Breath™.
The first stage of breath is the incredibly important and often underestimated Ocean Breath™. The Ocean Breath™ empowers the heart to open, the body to relax and connect with the sensations and feelings that flow within your body and the body of your lover.
If the feelings are not stuck and seem impossible to express, this gently flowing breath melts the blocks that keep the energy from flowing. Good lovemaking can not happen unless the heart center opens up, and the Ocean Breath™ is the fasted way to open this marvelous portal of love.
You allow the breath to come into your slightly opened mouth and let it float down into the lower part of the lungs. The diaphragm respond to this with moving down to make room for the lungs to elongate. This creates a gentle, empowering massage of the sex center.
Any touch, but especially the water touch –this relaxing, nurturing touch– when synchronized with the Ocean Breath™ can take the touch deeper into the body of your lover, touching the very core.
The Ocean Breath™ opens you up for communication on a deep level. Breathing this way helps you become aware of all that needs to be expressed to be fully present to love. What emerges with the Ocean Breath™ could be anything such as desires, needs that have been suppressed, expression of gratefulness, a strong longing to connect. It is the best preparation for the so called ‘foreplay’. I call it the ‘pre-foreplay’.
The Ocean Breath™ opens up energies stored in the sex and power center and get them moving throughout the whole body, a great preparation for multiple orgasms.
The second stage – the nose breath with a longer exhalation through your mouth is best used during the second part of the foreplay and the beginning of intercourse, and the more advanced third stage breath is the controlled breath.
Important note: you can always revert back to the Ocean Breath™ when find yourself disconnected from your partner, or thinking you should do something different than what is happening and/or forcing to reach a goal. The Ocean Breath™ will take you back to the present moment.
Another note: A woman does not have to learn the stage three breath because she does not need to control the energy unless she wants to.
Love, Carla
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Video: The Ocean Breath
by CarlaTara · 2 Comments
I teach The Ocean Breath in my workshops, and to my one-on-one clients. It is an amazing tool to deal with stress – as you flow with the breath, you become easily and quickly relaxed. You turn off your thinking mind -that’s the true secret to effective stress relief. My clients are just blown away by how different they feel in just minutes – it’s all in using the technique precisely.
Now, you can get instant access to this amazing breathing technique – find out more about the Secrets of the Ocean Breath.
Effortless Orgasms Are Possible!
I recently started working with a great looking woman who first came in my door so stressed that she could not sit still without constantly re-arranging her body. That first day, her eyes were speedily moving around in hypervigilance. She could not finish one sentence in the rush to get to the next.
What she said came from a rehearsed circular thinking in her head. She did not allow herself time to feel. She told me she hated herself and especially her body. She grew up with a self-righteous alcoholic father and a Catholic mother who did NOT allow herself or her children to feel feelings, especially those of pleasure.
She complained that she had a dark secret: she was 49 years old and she had never had an orgasm! All her friends were telling her of their great lovemaking, ending in earthshaking orgasms. . . Whether they were telling her the truth or not, she believed them and guessed there was something wrong with her.
Talking to Jane did not seem the best approach, because her rigid belief that there was something wrong with her would just filter out my words. I had to try something more direct. Read more
