Breaking Habits That Destroy Love
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As you probably know, much of our difficulty in keeping a relationship fresh comes from the fact that the left side of our brains, the part that is concerned with our survival, loves to create habits. This part of the brain is responsible for doing things for you that produce efficiency and comfort. Obviously it is not efficient to have to figure out over and over again which muscles to use, and in what sequence, to do simple things like walking, opening a door, making sounds, and even more complicated actions like flying a plane.
By creating habits, the left side of our brain lets us make a little ‘program’ that takes us through the most efficient set of actions without wasting time thinking through each one. We are really grateful for this ability, which ultimately makes our lives easier.
However, the problem is that this same part of our brain wants to take over and make the decisions about what’s best for you all the time, without consulting with the heart. The left side simply takes over the job of the right side of our brain without being in touch with the wisdom that is available to the right brain, and without considering factors like love, joy, and excitement.
If we don’t pay attention, the habit-creating actions of the left side, which can be so useful to us, can start to strangle us with efficiency and routine in the most important parts of our lives where we DON’T want to be on autopilot. Read more
Why Men Don’t Care How Women Feel
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A problem I hear very often from women in couples who feel they are not listened to or misunderstood or ignored is that their man doesn’t care how they feel, or doesn’t bother to listen to their feelings. But what women think they see in men’s behavior is not always a reflection of a man’s true thought or action. In spite of some women’s complaints that men don’t like feelings, my experience in working with thousands of men and women shows that what most men want Read more
The G-Spot In Her Ears
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“For women the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below too soon is wasting his time.” -Isabel Allende
A G-spot in her ears? Does that sound strange? Bizarre? Impossible? You might have never heard of it, but it is not so strange after you take a moment to think how important words are to a woman.
Do you remember how much appreciation you expressed to your lover at the beginning of your relationship? Read more
FREE Preview of My New Workshop!
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I’m so excited to share the news about my new workshop for Baby Boomers called Booming Relationships.
Last fall I asked you, my readers and visitors, for feedback on what is missing in your lives, what you most want to improve, how I could help you the most. And you responded!
The end result is Booming Relationships, a weekend workshop dedicated to guiding Baby Boomers to rekindle passion, joy, love and excitement for life and each other.
If you are a baby boomer couple, I invite you to join me for a FREE 2 hour taster workshop!
Thursday October 15th 2009
7-9pm
22 East 30th Street, New York, NY 10016
To register, e-mail both your names & any questions you have, to
carla@carlatara.com with ‘Booming Relationships Taster – Sign me up!’ in the subject line
and we’ll respond promptly.
How to Keep Your Sex Life Exciting When You Have Kids
by CarlaTara · 16 Comments
Kids bring lots of joy to a couple, but they also bring enormous work and lots of responsibilities. Parents have to structure their time around their children’s needs – feeding them, keeping them clean, teaching social skills, making sure they play with friends – just to mention a few of your endless parental duties.
You both love your kids, but somehow, with your focus on taking care of them, romance takes a back seat. Before the children, you had more time for each other. You could go out to dinner, see mutual friends, go to interesting movies and discuss them; you were motivated to be sensuous and creative, and could schedule time to make love more often. With your priority shifting to the children, this takes a toll on your intimacy together. As a couple, you can feel disconnected.
The ancient science of Conscious Love, Tantra, gives wonderful advice to parents. It is simple advice, but it requires your commitment to maintaining high passion in your relationship while you are being good parents. Read more
