Giving In The Spirit of Tantra
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The hustle and bustle of many of us who have bought into the commercialization of the Holidays are can be greatly scaled down if you spend a few minutes to check in with yourself – how well are you receiving the presents that life offers you every single day?
When you have a real smile on your face, because you are thinking how lucky you are to have health, the sunshine, the rain, the abundance of fruits that nature gives us, the ability to reach out to thousands of people and contribute to their lives, a call from a friend who is thinking of you…then you are enjoying the true gifts of life.
I believe that when you are good at receiving with gratefulness in your heart, you are also good at giving of yourself – remember that for the people in your life, the best present of all is your full presence. Even a hug given with full presence is a great gift. Yes, you truly can give a lot when you look into another’s eyes and are touched by the love you feel for this person.
If giving more material presents makes you happy and does not unduly stress your finances, go ahead and be generous in that way, too. Just take the time, and make sure you connect while you are giving your present. Then it will have double value!
Love,
Carla
Carla Tara
The Intimacy Expert
Thanksgiving – What are you giving thanks for?
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This thanksgiving holiday, I’m inviting you to give thanks for your ability to get out of your head into your body!
Getting out of one’s head is essential to reach really satisfactory sex and deeper connection. As you know, the thoughts you have, even if they are positive, cannot be sustained for long. Advertising agencies and the creators of commercials know that the attention span of most people is about 16 to 30 seconds. That’s not nearly enough time to get you really turned-on when you are focusing your mind on pleasurable sensations. Read more
2010 – A New Good Year
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A new year has begun, and already we are inundated with messages about making resolutions to ‘fix’ our failings. I believe we serve our greatest potential better when we come from the positive instead of the negative.
This year I am overcoming my temptation to go into new resolutions without looking back to acknowledge myself for what I have accomplished. I have been taking the time to reflect on what I considered failures and see the lessons I’ve learned from setbacks I had in 2009, and I invite you to do the same.
So what have I gained from the year just past?
I’ve learned to take a moment to breathe when painful situations presented themselves. Using the Ocean Breath in my everyday life has been quite transforming. I’ve learned to reach deeper into self-empathy instead of beating myself up for not being “more perfect”, to take a moment and lick my wounds when I needed to instead of instantly diving into work. Taking that time has helped me to forgive faster, learn my lessons, and move on. I also learned to really appreciate the work I do, and actually take in the positive feedback I am getting from my clients. And most importantly, I’ve learned to ask for help when I need it and appreciate it deeply. I’ve also learned how much I enjoy sharing laughter with friends and family.
I invite you to look equally at your successes and the lessons you received from what the ego calls “failures”. It feels good to take this time; it actually opens your mind and your heart for the new to come in.
And what do I desire from the year just begun?
For 2010, I want to grow more in self-knowledge and love. I will follow my intuition and allow my creativity to come through more freely, slowing down self-criticism that I often allowed to stop me in the past. I decide to balance my work with play and enjoy the beauty of nature that touches my heart and makes me smile. I want to grow in understanding and loving others and listen more deeply to what they don’t say … I want to support people in expressing all of who they are, physically, mentally, emotionally, sexually and spiritually.
I pray that 2010 bring all of you abundant health, joy, peace and pleasure.
Blessings,
Carla Tara
Happy Holidays
Wishing you the most peaceful Holiday time of this year that is ending
and an inspired, blissful and prosperous 2010.
Love,
Carla
Great Sex is This Year’s “Must-Have” Gift
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The R’n’B singer Rhianna recently quipped that all she wants this Christmas is “some great food and great sex.” What a wish list! Creating beautiful, tasty dishes, and the time and space for connected love-making, are two of my favorites of the Sixty-Four Tantric Arts.
We know about the healing properties of fresh, home-made food. But what about fresh, home-made, loving sex?
One of the best ways to live longer while feeling and looking younger has a lot to do with giving and receiving love and having good sex. As you’ll see, it also helps stave off colds, which is good news come the holiday season.
I saw Dr. Daniel G. Aman present astounding facts about the brain at the World Anti-Aging Conference last year. Dr. Aman is a brain specialist who wrote an amazing book called Magnificent Mind at Any Age, about the brain’s effect on how we feel, our outlook on life, our longevity and our ability to be happy and healthy.
In his presentation to about 2,000 doctors interested in age management and preventive intervention in maintaining a healthy body healthy into old age, Dr. Aman mentioned a Cleveland Study based on the beneficial results to men who were feeling loved. 10,000 men who participated in this study were asked the question: “Does your wife show you love?” The ones who answered Yes were statistically proven to live significantly longer than those who answered No. Read more
