Breaking Habits That Destroy Love
by CarlaTara · Leave a Comment
As you probably know, much of our difficulty in keeping a relationship fresh comes from the fact that the left side of our brains, the part that is concerned with our survival, loves to create habits. This part of the brain is responsible for doing things for you that produce efficiency and comfort. Obviously it is not efficient to have to figure out over and over again which muscles to use, and in what sequence, to do simple things like walking, opening a door, making sounds, and even more complicated actions like flying a plane.
By creating habits, the left side of our brain lets us make a little ‘program’ that takes us through the most efficient set of actions without wasting time thinking through each one. We are really grateful for this ability, which ultimately makes our lives easier.
However, the problem is that this same part of our brain wants to take over and make the decisions about what’s best for you all the time, without consulting with the heart. The left side simply takes over the job of the right side of our brain without being in touch with the wisdom that is available to the right brain, and without considering factors like love, joy, and excitement.
If we don’t pay attention, the habit-creating actions of the left side, which can be so useful to us, can start to strangle us with efficiency and routine in the most important parts of our lives where we DON’T want to be on autopilot. Read more
The Tantric Secret – Simpler Than You Think
The Tantric secret to obtaining the highest orgasm and deepening love is very natural and very simple: pay attention to your lover.
Men are usually faster than women getting to places where they are tempted to ejaculate so I will concentrate on guiding men. If you are a woman who get sexually turned on faster than your man, this is for you, too.
For men, your woman’s breathing is the most essential guide that will tell you where your woman is in her process of getting turned. She will hopefully be using the Ocean Breath, a fluid natural breath. When her breathing becomes deep and she makes sounds of pleasure, you know she’s there with you. Until then, you need to match her breathing and feel where she is.
The breath is the most important telltale sign to guide you to her state of arousal. Read more
Dealing With Stress the Tantra Way
Life has become easier and more complicated at the same time.
Easier because we have everything closer at hand, complicated because we have many choices available and only limited time to study them and to pursue them.
We have to deal with: “what is the best way to deal with this? Who is right? Who can help us meet our challenges or solve our problems?” Read more
Tips for Eating Right and Living Well
by CarlaTara · 5 Comments
Did you make a New Year’s resolution to start exercising more, or get on a new diet? Here are some Tantra tips on diet, nutrition, and living right to develop your sexual attractiveness, and increase your energy.
Before starting any diet or exercise regimen, consult your health professional. Since we are all different, it is your responsibility to observe reactions and changes in your own body and take the necessary precautions to protect your physical, emotional and spiritual health.
Sexual attractiveness is based not on looks, but on that radiance which comes from breathing deeply, taking adequate time for rest, eating the right foods at the right time of day, and from keeping your spine and legs as flexible as possible. The best healer is the body itself. If you listen to your body, it will tell you how to heal itself. Read more
Gentle Sexiness Before Bed
by CarlaTara · 4 Comments
Falling asleep in pleasure opens the body/mind/emotions to healing.
Healing means becoming whole. Healing happens when we are in pleasure. When we connect with ourselves or with our lover in pleasure, we integrate the sometimes incomplete, unfinished experience with our higher mind. When that integration happens, the knowledge of what we have learned and experienced is transmitted to every cell of the body and we heal on a cellular level. Read more
