Effortless Orgasms Are Possible!
I recently started working with a great looking woman who first came in my door so stressed that she could not sit still without constantly re-arranging her body. That first day, her eyes were speedily moving around in hypervigilance. She could not finish one sentence in the rush to get to the next.
What she said came from a rehearsed circular thinking in her head. She did not allow herself time to feel. She told me she hated herself and especially her body. She grew up with a self-righteous alcoholic father and a Catholic mother who did NOT allow herself or her children to feel feelings, especially those of pleasure.
She complained that she had a dark secret: she was 49 years old and she had never had an orgasm! All her friends were telling her of their great lovemaking, ending in earthshaking orgasms. . . Whether they were telling her the truth or not, she believed them and guessed there was something wrong with her.
Talking to Jane did not seem the best approach, because her rigid belief that there was something wrong with her would just filter out my words. I had to try something more direct. Read more
Should You Fake Your Orgasms?
by CarlaTara · 2 Comments
On the Fourth of July, I had an experience that I never had before. I stood right under fireworks that exploded right above me. While my eyes were taking in the incredible beauty of the show I was feeling the explosions in my heart. The explosions reminded me of a fantastic, romantic night I spent the weekend before. I felt little bursts of pleasure in all the cells of my body…
It was awesome. I was feeling so energized and excited that I skipped all the way home.
However, I want you to know that sometimes orgasms can be quiet and very deep. At other times, you know you are not able to have an orgasm at all. Women sometimes feel that they have to fake an orgasm with high sounds and fast breathing in order not to disappoint their lovers. Men who might know about explosive orgasms might measure their own ability as lovers, by a woman’s ability to have explosive orgasms.
What would you do then? You might ask yourself, “should I fake it or not?”
Which is Best – The Vaginal or Clitoral Orgasm?
by CarlaTara · 29 Comments
In a Many Curryville blog Steve Czamoray commented: “For over a hundred years, sexual stamina researchers, feminists and pop-culture have been enmeshed in an ongoing debate as to which is superior: the vaginal or clitoral orgasm. Which is the Best Female Orgasm?” Read more
Male Multiple Full-Body Orgasms
by CarlaTara · 18 Comments
There’s a widespread misconception that male orgasm must involve ejaculation. The truth is that men can have several full-body orgasms without ever ejaculating, and those orgasms can be far more satisfying than ordinary ejaculatory orgasms. A man who pays attention to his body’s reactions can probably attest to the fact that sometimes he can have an ejaculation that doesn’t “move” him at all. It’s just a relief of sexual tension created by the stimulation, but no real high–the kind of high that makes lovemaking worthwhile, that makes you shake from the tips of your toes to the top of your head. Read more
