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Which is Best – The Vaginal or Clitoral Orgasm?
In a Many Curryville blog Steve Czamoray commented: “For over a hundred years, sexual stamina researchers, feminists and pop-culture have been enmeshed in an ongoing debate as to which is superior: the vaginal or clitoral orgasm. Which is the Best Female Orgasm?”
While I am staying out of the medical debate about penile enlargement and its consequences to your health, as a Tantrika I can say that the size of your penis has little to do with her having the greatest orgasm she can have. For you, it is very much a matter of being in control of your mind that often scares you by telling you that you will repeat the same poor performance of previous times, and using the right angles during intercourse.
It is essential to really connect with her, to know how to use your love muscles (PC muscles), using breathing and concentration techniques to avoid premature ejaculation while building up the charge. A premature ejaculation is an ejaculation that happens before you want it. Your muscles start pumping out the semen involuntarily. You need to learn to control them, and in many cases strengthen them. If you ejaculate before your lover has reached an orgasm, whether clitoral or vaginal or both, it is an ejaculation that is premature.
Tantra can give you the techniques you need to achieve results you desire. Furthermore it provides you with the added satisfaction of connecting more deeply with your lover. When you allow their love in, instead of being closed off in your head, worried about how you will perform, you will relax and actually be a better lover.
About her orgasms: a clitoral orgasm can happen with just rubbing on the outside of the clitoris. It can be achieved during intercourse if her clitoris is close to the introitus of the yoni so it gets strokes by your lingam, otherwise she needs extra stimulation from the outside. You can help her achieve vaginal orgasms, whether g spot or cervical orgasms, during intercourse by adjusting your angle of entry and doing the right hip movements.
The clitoral orgasm can not be compared to vaginal orgasms. It’s like comparing apples with oranges. The clitoral orgasm is more intense and more similar to the male orgasm, whereas the vaginal orgasms are more feminine in nature: more wavelike and can last for a long time and can be repeated. A woman can have a series of vaginal orgasms, but usually only one or two clitoral orgasm. Then the clitoris becomes too sensitive to continue.
I really hope I have helped shine some light on the debate. What do you like more: oranges or apples? I myself like both and both are incredibly pleasurable.